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364/365 Passing the marshmallow test

Every time you sit down to work, remind yourself: I am delaying gratification by doing this. I am passing the marshmallow test. I am earning what my ambition burns for. I am making an investment in myself instead of in my ego. Give yourself a little credit for this choice,[…]

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363/365 Prepare for pride and kill it early

We must prepare for pride and kill it early—or it will kill what we aspire to. We must be on guard against that wild self-confidence and self-obsession. “The first product of self-knowledge is humility,” Flannery O’Connor once said. This is how we fight the ego, by really knowing ourselves. From[…]

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359/365 Never happy with what we have

That’s how it seems to go: we’re never happy with what we have, we want what others have too. We want to have more than everyone else. We start out knowing what is important to us, but once we’ve achieved it, we lose sight of our priorities. Ego sways us,[…]

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353/365 Inside our own fantasy

We can’t work with other people if we’ve put up walls. We can’t improve the world if we don’t understand it or ourselves. We can’t take or receive feedback if we are incapable of or uninterested in hearing from outside sources. We can’t recognize opportunities—or create them—if instead of seeing[…]

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352/365 The first principle

The first principle is that you must not fool yourself—and you are the easiest person to fool. — Richard Feynman From “Ego is the Enemy: The Fight to Master Our Greatest Opponent” by Ryan Holiday

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351/365 Fight to stay different

The orator Demosthenes once said that virtue begins with understanding and is fulfilled by courage. We must begin by seeing ourselves and the world in a new way for the first time. Then we must fight to be different and fight to stay different—that’s the hard part. From “Ego is[…]

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350/365 Stay until lunch

Years ago, I saw an interview with someone who was or had been in Special Forces in the military. He talked about how hard training was and that he got through training by telling himself he was just going to stay until lunch. After lunch, he would mentally commit to[…]

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349/365 Joy independent of pleasure

We have a mind condition that makes us itch for two types of pleasure: pleasure of the senses and pleasure of the ego. When our senses are pleasantly stimulated, as when we eat something tasty, or our ego is pleasantly stimulated, as when we are praised for something we did,[…]

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348/365 When we get angry

When we get angry, compassion is the first casualty. When you forget other people are people, you forget that those other lives are just as real and immediate as your own. They are constantly feeling, experiencing, reacting, just like you are. From “This Will Never Happen Again” by David Cain

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347/365 The most important investment

As Tony recounted, Buffett told him, “Investing in yourself is the most important investment you’ll ever make in your life … There’s no financial investment that’ll ever match it, because if you develop more skill, more ability, more insight, more capacity, that’s what’s going to really provide economic freedom …[…]

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